So, we asked (formerly) married people of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us how they discovered that their spouse was cheating on them, and they did not hold back: 1. "When he called me at 3 a.m. to ...

It goes without saying that cheating sucks. There's no excuse for it, and it's not the fault of the partner being cheated on. However, that doesn't make it any easier to learn that your partner is ...